6 Things I Learned Without A Textbook My Freshman Year Of College
By: Alexia Berube
After my first year of college it's safe to say I’m completely comfortable, not in the sense that I’m where I want to be doing what I want to do, but comfortable of where I’m going. And who I’m going with.
I’m so grateful for little reminders that let me know I’m going places. I’m seeing creation for what it is and looking at how the people around me interpret it as well. I can’t help but be joyful and happy and content for the things that have partially been accomplished and are radiating brightly to come.
If you don’t have goals, set some, if your friends don’t, find some who do. Life’s too short not to be happy about not only the present but also the future.
That being said, here's everything I learned about life, love, and happiness my first year of college;
1. No, I don't need you in my life.
Remove those people from your life that make you feel bad about yourself. Delete numbers, old text threads, remove them from your life completely. Learn to surround yourself with happier people, read a silly book, pet some puppies. Hate is so unnecessary in this world, seriously don't voice your opinion if what you're going to say isn't more beautiful than silence.
2. Live for yourself and be happy on your own.
Your years in college are meant to be spent discovering things about yourself. Become a whole person on your own, don't stress over someone not liking you back or hoping someone will fall in love with you. Relationships are great but remember that it isn't the only kind of love that exits. I've seen friendships that go deeper than couples who swear it's forever. Go on adventures, read a lot, talk to strangers, do something kind, smile as often as you can. Do all things will kindness and love but do not romanticize life like you can't live without it.
3. Don't settle.
No matter what career path you're deciding to take remember this: Never settle for less than you deserve. Make connections with people who have the same goals and ambitions you do. Cut out those connections that are cynical and opportunistic. Know your worth and never let someone take advantage of you. You'll never have more freedom than you do in college so do as much as you can or you'll regret it later.
4. Feed your brain, a lot.
Spend your free time learning something new, expose your brain to new and different ideas and perspectives. You never know what opening new ideas can do for your everyday life. Learn, be curious, wonder, question everything, think.
5. Read everything.
It's the equivalent of living multiple lives; reading can stimulate your imagination, thinking skills,and ultimately it’s just food for thought.
Read about everything and anything. Ask professors, parents, random people what their favorite books are. You will notice yourself becoming packed full of ideas and experiences.
6. People will always surprise you
The friends you make your first semester of college often won't be there towards the end. Never let people walk all over you by setting your expectations for others too high. Remember that it takes time get to know people. Good or bad, everyone that comes into your life is a lesson.
7. Everyone's just as lost as you are, I promise.
It takes time to fit in. If you're constantly feeling like you don't belong or aren't happy your first few weeks, don't worry you're not alone. We've all been there.
Sit in the library alone, go to those freshman activities, take a class at the gym -- get the full college experience. Everything will start to fall naturally into place. Soon you'll have friends who you couldn't imagine your life without.