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A Lovely Reminder to The One Doing it All For Everyone but Themself.

A Lovely Reminder to The One Doing it All For Everyone but Themself.

By: Victoria Gold

You can't control what happens to the ones you love.

No mater how much you try to protect them, be there for them, and keep them safe, you cannot control the outcome in the end.You can run yourself dry and drain yourself entirely trying to always be the "glue that holds everyone together." Maybe even be "on call," all hours of the day and night, in case someone needs you. 

You spend more time trying to be a hand to hold and a person to rely on than you do taking care of yourself or taking a breath.

This is what you need to remember though, when it becomes too much to carry, too much burden to hold.

It is not your responsibility to up hold every single person's heavy weight. Nor is it your purpose to do so either. Don't get me wrong, being a good friend, sister, mother, daughter, the list goes on, are all wonderful things to be. And to be able to be the calm to someone else storm is even better. Especially when you're able to give them care and love when the world is harsh to them. 

The thing is though, eventually it becomes too much and it's okay to take a step back and take a break. 

It doesn't make you a selfish person. It doesn't mean that you have given up on anyone either. It simply means you need a break to focus on yourself, and that's okay. Oh, and also it is not your place to feel guilty for how other people act or behave when you aren't there to help them make every single move easier for them. Life is hard, but they'll find a way to get through what they're gong through even with you loving them from a distance. There should be no guilt in simply stepping back from people for your own mental health and emotional well-being.

Don't let other people dictate when you can have quiet time and not. Do not let other people manipulate you into using more time and energy than you have at the time. Just do the best you can to the best of your abilities and remember that you don't have to do it all. It's okay to distance yourself from people for a time! -Especially if their stress is causing you more stress. 

Don't let your good intentions become toxic, weary, obligational decisions. 

Most of all, don't forget to take care of yourself and be content while doing it!