I Want a Guy Who Actually Gives a Shit About Me
By: Ann Bashedly
Thereâ€™s no denying it, life isnâ€™t easy to do alone. I want a shoulder to cry on and a hand to hold when Iâ€™m struggling. But itâ€™s hard to keep giving others a chance with my heart when it only comes back more broken than before.
Iâ€™m tired of convincing myself that someone deserves my heart just because they want it and not because theyâ€™ve actually proven that they deserve it. I want a guy who actually gives a shit about me.
He wonâ€™t be all talk. When he says heâ€™s going to show up, heâ€™s going to.Heâ€™s going to care about how my day went and do all the little things that will make it better.Heâ€™ll warm the car up on a cold day, carry the heavier grocery bags, and try his best to make every date night special for us.
Heâ€™ll do this because itâ€™s second nature to him and not because heâ€™s in the doghouse.
Heâ€™s going to talk me up to everyone he knows not because he wants to make me look good but because heâ€™s proud to show me off.
Heâ€™ll want to spend all of his time with me but never threaten my independence.I wonâ€™t have to feel like a back up plan because heâ€™ll never make excuses. Heâ€™ll say â€œyesâ€ and not â€œmaybeâ€ when I ask to do the things that I want to do. And it wonâ€™t be clingy, or overbearing because it will just seem natural to do most things together.
And when weâ€™re not together, he wonâ€™t forget that I exist. He wonâ€™t ghost me on the weekends or have me worried about his â€œfree timeâ€ because heâ€™ll always want to call and let me know that Iâ€™m missed, cared about and extremely loved.
And if shit hits the fan between us, heâ€™ll respect my space but heâ€™ll never leave my side. He wonâ€™t disregard a fight as something Iâ€™ll get over. Heâ€™ll work to make things better because heâ€™ll never want to be the reason Iâ€™m hurt. Heâ€™ll actually give a shit about my feelings.
Heâ€™ll make me look forward to our future together because each and every day he will inspire and bring out the best of me. But heâ€™ll still make me feel like the way I am now, even with all my imperfections is already perfect.
Heâ€™ll give a shit about me because when it comes to love, Iâ€™m no longer settling.