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I'm 23 and have no idea what to do with my life

I'm 23 and have no idea what to do with my life

By: Leigha

I did everything I was supposed to do. I went to college and focused on my studies instead of partying, I went for a degree in something practical (teaching), and I got a job right out of college. I work hard, I put my head down and don't get in trouble. I do what is textbook to have a good life and be successful. So why am I not there yet? 

It's on every 20 somethings mind anyway, just ask the question. What did I do wrong? But I've come to realize a few things. First, it's not just about me. I have done my part and busted my butt to get where I am but there are so many other factors that I never stop to see. When you are in the middle of panicking over bills or relationships or work, you fail to see all of the other parts of the world that you are succeeding in fighting back. It's overwhelming at first and if you are like me, you get so wrapped up in making sure that everything is perfect that you lose sight of how good you are actually doing. 

Second, I've realized that almost everyone else I know is going through the same thing. Key words, ALMOST everyone, so when you see that one friend who actually does have everything all working out don't get discouraged. Just look at what they are doing and see if you can steal some of their ideas. But most people in their 20's are making major life changes all the time so I guess I'm doing alright for myself. I also realized that a lot of my problem what how high of expectations I have always set for myself and needed to cut myself a little slack. 

Third thing I have realized is, and I'm not trying to sound preachy here, let some things go and just make the change. If you aren't happy, bite the bullet and change something about your life. Now don't get me wrong, this is a really hard thing to do (especially for a Type A personality like me). It certainly is scary and nerve wracking and makes you lose sleep at night. But little changes can honestly make a huge difference. I started leaving myself little notes around the house to remind myself to breath, taking a few minutes to myself every day to revel in the little accomplishments, and stopped comparing myself to everyone around me. I know it sounds cheesy but it instantly helped. 

I guess what I'm trying to say is it's okay to not be perfect. It's hard to realize that perfection isn't all it is cracked up to be when you are drowning in all your self-wallowing but take 30 seconds to just breathe. Then look seriously at your life and see what's good. Look past the negative and it will instantly look better. Good luck, I'm still trying to figure it out.