To The Girl Who Needs To Find Herself Again
By: Mandie Foster
Somewhere along the line life happened. And you got swept off your feet into the vortex where you lost yourself.
You got confused between who you were and who the world wanted you to be. You forgot how incredibly special and amazing you are. Youâ€™ve forgotten how talented and blessed you are. Youâ€™ve sacrificed who you are for who they want you to be. Youâ€™ve allowed other people to tell you who you are. Youâ€™ve forgotten everything about you that makes you, you.
â€œDo you remember who you were before the world told you who you should be? -Danielle LaPorte"
For far too long, you've put your happiness in the hands of others. Youâ€™ve put others before yourself. And allowed their happiness to be more important than yours. Youâ€™ve allowed your emotions to be pawns in other peopleâ€™s games. Youâ€™ve rather place blame than accept responsibility. Youâ€™ve look to them for fulfillment when you shouldâ€™ve looked to yourself. Youâ€™ve forgotten how to love yourself. Youâ€™ve forgotten how to be you.
Youâ€™ve been so lost in the whirlwind of life that youâ€™ve tricked yourself into thinking youâ€™re happy until the high ends. Until your friends leave and you are all alone. Until you hit rock bottom.
Youâ€™ve become someone that you donâ€™t recognize. Someone who you thought you were supposed to be. And you donâ€™t want to be that girl. Youâ€™ve become that girl that you promised yourself you would never be, the girl that doesnâ€™t know who she is.
You tell yourself that youâ€™re happy. That you love the life that you live until youâ€™re laying in bed late at night and it all hits you. Those fundamental life questions. What are you even doing with your life? Who are you? Are you satisfied with where you are at? Are you really happy? And you can escape the resounding no that you feel because you know itâ€™s the truth.
Youâ€™ve tried to be what everyone else needed instead of what you need. Youâ€™ve conceded when you shouldâ€™ve fought. Youâ€™ve tried to be who you thought people expected you to be, to please them instead of please yourself. Youâ€™ve gotten so caught up in everything else that youâ€™ve lost yourself along the way.
You have spent so long living for others instead of living for yourself. Youâ€™ve looked for love in all the wrong places. And happiness in all the wrong people. Youâ€™ve constantly looked to others for approval and acceptance when you donâ€™t even accept yourself.
Youâ€™ve done everything that the world has told you would make you happy and it has left you with nothing but unhappiness. Youâ€™ve been so desperately trying to fill that void, but nothing you do, get, or meet ever seems to be able to fill it. And at the end of the day, you feel empty. You feel lost.
With confusion comes clarity. Everyone has had a time in their lives when they felt lost. But, then they found themselves in the wilderness. You have to find yourself too. And maybe you need to lose yourself to find yourself.
You feel overwhelmed with life and everything that is going on in your life but you donâ€™t know what to do. Youâ€™re stressed out and sometimes it almost seems like youâ€™re drowning and thereâ€™s no escape. You look for help in others when you should have looked within yourself. Others can aid, but ultimately no one can save you except you. You have to help yourself. Youâ€™re the only person that is always going to be there for yourself.
You put so much pressure on yourself to be the person your family and friends expects you to be when all youâ€™ve ever needed to be was you. You have only ever had to be enough for you. Youâ€™ve only ever needed yourself. No one else matters. You chose to let their opinions matter when they donâ€™t. People only affect you if you allow them to. The question is when will it be enough? When will the cycle end? When all the noise of the world stops, how loud is your presence in the silence?
Life is speeding past you and youâ€™re just a twenty-year old girl that has no idea what she wants to do with her life. Youâ€™re panicking because you think youâ€™re running out of time. Youâ€™re growing up and you feel the pressure to decide, but you donâ€™t know how. You donâ€™t even know what you want for breakfast in the morning. Everyone tells you that you need to get your act together and figure your life out. But, this whole adulting thing is new. Cut yourself some slack. You are still trying to find out who you are.
Regardless of what anyone tells you, you donâ€™t have to have this whole thing figured out. You just need to find yourself. And once you find that badass, unconditionally love that person. Because once you love yourself, everything else will fall into place.
There are billions of people in this world. But, there is only one you. Donâ€™t let anyone try to change you or tell you who to be. There is no one else in this world like you. You have the ability to make a difference. The size of that difference is up to you. But, please donâ€™t waste your life not being true to who you are.
No matter how lost you may feel rest assured, you will find yourself again.